Sunday, January 31, 2010
Love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse, something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash your spouse's car. Clean the kitchen. Buy or make their favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Saturday, January 30, 2010
You have so many opportunities to greet your family on a daily basis. Coming through the door, meeting at lunch, on the phone, saying goodnight, etc... Adding warmth and enthusiasm gives you a chance to touch their heart in a subtle, unspoken way.
Love is a choice. So choose to change your greeting. Choose to love.
Challenge for Day 9 is to think of a specific way you'd like to greet your spouse and family today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
Friday, January 29, 2010
Because love is not selfish and puts others first, it refuses to let jealousy in.
Celebrate successes of your spouse rather than resenting them. Let successes draw you closer together and give you greater opportunities to show genuine love.
Challenge for Day 8 is to determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. to help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
I'm prepared to have my cheeks hurting from laughter.... I won't have internet but I"ll be back Sunday evening to draw a winner for the giveaway.
Meanwhile, if you've been following the Love Dare, the daily challenges will still post while I'm gone.
Have a great weekend!
Challenge for Day 7 is to get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
My cousins and I have come up with some really fun ideas for our families.
I can't believe February is only 5 days away!
The past few years I have done a 14 Days of Love for my husband, leaving little treats here and there with cute and corny sayings for the two weeks prior to Valentines Day, but this year it's going to be a family affair with lots of love goodies for everyone.....
I have loads of recipes that will be in heart shapes, movies, garlands and other crafts, candlelight family dinners, etc...planned.
I thought I'd share the idea so that if you want to do a 14 day countdown too, you'd have plenty of time to plan because I think it's going to be SO fun and something even my teenagers will look forward to every day!
Are you a calming breeze or a storm waiting to happen?
Key reasons people are irritable: Stress, Selfishness, Lust, Bitterness, Greed and Pride
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Balance, prioritize and pace yourself.
Challenge for Day 6 is to choose today to react to tough circumstances in your family in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Then I tried them... So delicious and so easy, my 2-14 year old man clan can make them....
Chocolate Carmel Cookies
1 box chocolate cake mix
1/3 cup oil
Combine first three ingredients. Mix will be a little dry but just keep working it in until all combined. Take a TBSP or so of dough and roll in a ball. Put a piece of caramel in the center and cover completely with dough.
Bake at 350 for 9 minutes.
Warning - Oooey-gooey center is really hot, so restrain yourself for a few minutes or you'll burn your tongue!
~Guard the Golden Rule - treat your spouse and family members the same way you want to be treated.
~No double standards - be as considerate to your spouse as you are to strangers and coworkers.
~Honor requests - consider what your spouse already asked you to do or not to do. If in doubt, then ask.
Challenge for Day 5 is to ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective only.
Monday, January 25, 2010
Second entry - blog about the letters and giveaway on your blog, linking us to the post and then leave a comment on this post letting us know you where you blogged about it.
It's as easy as that!
Please encourage your friends to do the same!
Winner can have the letter of their choice in black or white.
Winner will be chosen Sunday night.
3/4 cup mayonnaise
5 TBSP taco seasoning
2 green onion tops, thinly sliced
1 cup red bell pepper, diced
1 can black olives, sliced
3/4 cup salsa
1 garlic clove, pressed
1 can black beans, drained and rinsed
1 can whole kernel corn, drained
Mix first 3 ingredients until smooth and spread over a plate or bowl. Mix remaining ingredients together and spoon over cream cheese mixture. Serve with tortilla chips.
SO easy and SO good!
Your taste buds will be saying yummmmmm.....
Thoughtfulness is the constructive combination of patience, kindness and selflessness.
Challenge for Day 4 is to contact your spouse and family members sometime during the business of the day. Have no other agenda other than asking how they are doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
If any of you family members know any stories about her, I'd love for you to email them to me.
We all have low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our spouse and family members.
You either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself.
Challenge for Day 3 is whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, do something special that says, "I was thinking of you today."
Saturday, January 23, 2010
There have been many things she has wanted to do....
Patience is how love REACTS in order to minimize a negative circumstance and kindness is how love ACTS to maximize a positive circumstance.
Kindness has 4 basic ingredients: